Part 10 : The final part

Welcome to the final part of this short introduction series. It feels odd to be creating a closer for something I myself haven't finished. Healing is never finished in the way that a blog post can be, it's a continuous task.

However I do feel I've covered a bit of ground and that I am finally, for the first time in many years; Well equipped to conquer myself and become my most authentic version of me to date.

So, We have spoken about a great many topics from self-worth to forgiveness. The final topic I'd like to cover is my personal Achilles heel; I've chosen it as the last because in my personal opinion, it's the easiest to ignore. When your doing so much personal work , focused on healing from past pains and becoming your most complete self. For some peculiar reason we forget to let go.

Let go of the pain we are healing from, let go of the people who hurt us. Letting go is the through line.

When I say let go I don't mean move on from, I don't mean blocking someone on social media. I mean LETTING GO. Completely and totally releasing the thread, the emotions and the presence and removing it from your energy field in totality. I think we can do a great deal of healing and moving on from a great many things, but what keeps us in a place of "I've worked so hard on my personal problems and I still have these feelings" is the inability to let go of what hurt us. Wether it is resentment or anger, or the hope that things will change and we will be reunited with those we lost. This inability or lack of desire to release things is what holds us back.

It's also the most important step in this whole journey. I know I've said alot of things are important (insert awkward laughter here) but I truly mean it when I say this is the most important step. It doesn't even have to be the first step, but if we do not take it we almost never fully move on. ( I say this from a personal place, every scenario is unique and every person is unique) I'll use my first and only quote for this series here.

The root of suffering is attachment. - Buddha

When we build ourselves on a foundation reliant on others, there is an inevitability to our despair. If all you stand on is warrant to crumble to nothing the moment someone decides they would rather not be standing below you. How strongly was the tower built? How much weight can you expect it to hold?

Release it to the void, to God, to the universe. Whatever you subscribe to, the message is the same. You will be free of it, once you release it; and not a moment sooner.

I know. It's an impossible ask, what if they change their mind and come back to you? What if your actions weren't as bad as your heads telling you they were, what if the events won't transpire again? What if , what if, what if.

What if you spend years of your life living attached to the corpse of a memory that no longer exists? What if in all your pining and waiting, your entire life passes you by? All is fleeting. Life in it's grand splendor is impermanent, you cannot control it and you cannot take anything with you when you go, and you WILL go; It's unavoidable. If we know nothing else in this universe, We know for certain only one thing. Life will end, time will pass, people and places WILL change.

So let's take a deep breath. Three in, 1... 2... 3... Four out, 1... 2... 3... 4... And let it go. Just be present, what's really around you? What's truly relevant? Only the moment, and only you.

Life is a battle. That's what everyone says isn't it? I'd like to think life is a little bit more like a Great Quest. There will be battles, loses, and moments of despair when you think all hope is lost. But in the grey morning when the sun pulls over the clouds and illuminates the truth, the truth that you are still here; that you survived the trial. You'll find the peaceful moments by the stream with fellow adventurers, The taverns of music and laughter, the wonder of discovery and treasure and the Joy of a true and overwhelming love. It takes time, and attachment is a natural compulsion; but remain focused on the quest and you will prevail, I know it. I look forward to finding you by the fire one day, and Sharing the great tales we both

- With love, Àse